You can have it all (and here’s how to start today)

When I was 25 years old, I went to a bar to meet my best friend Jina. Madam's Organ (in Adam's Morgan) was halfway between our two apartments and, thanks to her special relationship with the bartender (ahem), we never paid for drinks and he looked the other way when we got up on the bar shaking our money makers. Don't judge! It was the 90s, we were young and poor, and our jobs in the White House didn't cover much after rent and the weekly ramen 10-for-a-dollar sale.

But, that night, even though I'd been to this bar oh-so-many times and it was always the same, same, same, my life was about to change, change, change.

Funny thing about that night? I was actually on my way to meet another guy that night at a party we'd attend once we stopped first at the bar. But we never made it to that other party. We did, however, get up on the bar again.

Me, and Mr. Hot Stuff — (yes, him too! I said don't judge!) who I met 29 years ago this past weekend. We got married two years to the weekend we met, so we celebrated both our 29th Meetiversary as well as our 27th Wedding Anniversary this weekend.

We were babies when we got married. We didn't have frontal lobes, but we had each other.

I share this painting about once a year or so. For those of you who have been around a while you've seen it before. I see it every morning, because it hangs above the fireplace in our bedroom.

We had it commissioned from a fading Polaroid someone snapped of us dancing at a party back in 1999, less than a year after we got married, wearing the same outfits we wore to our rehearsal dinner. Still broke. Still in love. Still hopeful.

Sometimes, when we are in a rough patch, we look at that painting and ask, “Who were they? And how do we get back to them?”

But recently I started asking new questions: What have they learned? And what are they still learning?

Because after nearly three decades together, here's the thing I know to be true about marriage, about success, about life: You CAN have it all.

What do you want out of this one big juicy life?

Big ambition. A successful career. Deep love. Strong relationships.
A life that actually feels like yours.
But only if you decide to go all in.

That's what I wanted.
That's what I demanded.
That's what I worked to get.

But at what cost?
Everyone tells you that you have to sacrifice.
Everyone tells you that it will not be easy.
Everyone tells you that you will lose yourself along the way.

But they are wrong.

A few months ago, I was asked by a mastermind group to which I belong to tell them how I was able to build a life, a business, a family, all while never sacrificing my ambition. As I presented the session, the chat lit up with people saying that everything I was saying was blowing their minds, that it was shifting their paradigms, and it was giving them LIFE.

So, I thought, "Well, why gatekeeper this just for a few?" And, with that, I decided to bring it to you too.

And, that’s why I created a brand-new 14-day course:
​Going All-In: Balancing Ambition, Love, and Life​

It’s 14 days of no-fluff guidance with TWO immutable truths, FOUR no-BS strategies, and SEVEN real, actionable tips to help you build the life you want without losing yourself in the process.

It's not a life overhaul.
It's not another overwhelming program.

It's just 14 days. One email a day.
Delivered straight to your inbox.
Each with a simple thing you can do by yourself, with your partner, or with your family each day.

You can have it all.
You just can’t half-ass your way there.
So stop trying to balance everything and start aligning with what matters most.
Be where your feet are. Let go of perfect. Start and end with intention.

I'll show you how.

​Join the course now → Going All-In and use code ALLIN25LAUNCH for 25% off (ends Tuesday, April 8th).

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And while we're talking about real-life strategies, let's become Shatterproof!

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